
How can God help us deal with emotions when others sin against us? Jesus tells us how to work through such a situation. Luke 17:3 So watch yourselves! “If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. 4 Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.” [1]
I don’t know about you, but I find it easier to pray for my own sins than to work through the sins of others against me. Using the first approach, we can confess to our Lord, accept promises of forgiveness, and have our souls renewed. The second approach, however, can be more complicated and disorderly.
Forgiving sinners who betray, embarrass, and hurt us in our most vulnerable moments can feel like an uphill climb, making it difficult to forgive them from the heart, as Jesus tells us to. Matthew 18:35 “That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.[2]
As sinful human beings, we often replay the offenses against us, deepening the wound. As we replay those thoughts for the umpteenth time, we ask ourselves, “How could they?” To make matters worse, the closer the relationship, the deeper the wound we inflict on ourselves as we replay those negative thoughts.
Living in Constant Forgiveness
Living in constant forgiveness is the antidote to bitterness, self-wounding, and falling into the enemy’s traps. This is humanly impossible, but as believers, we are not alone; the Holy Spirit lives within us.
When someone sins against us, we also have a responsibility. We can address someone who has wronged us. Rebuking doesn’t mean listing every sin of the person. It should always be done lovingly, in both words and tone. The aim is to point out the wrongdoing with the intention of guiding the individual back to God and others. Restoration is always the Lord’s desire.
The context of our passage from Luke 17:3-4 refers to sin that could pull that person or others away from God and thus risk the millstone around their neck. Unless rebuke is tied to forgiveness, it will not help the sinning person. Because God has forgiven our sins, we should not withhold forgiveness from others.
Remember What Jesus has Done
When someone has hurt me, and I find it hard to forgive and rebuke them in love, remembering what Jesus has done changes my heart. As believers, we have hurt Jesus deeply because He had to pay the price for our sin so we could be forgiven. The cross was all about forgiveness, not payback. Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord. [3] There is something about meditating on that verse that puts the wound I received in a greater perspective.
To learn more about how to react when others sin against us, listen here:
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[1-3] Tyndale House Publishers. (2015). Holy Bible: New Living Translation. Tyndale House Publishers.








